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IT'S OK TO UGLY CRY: Healing Your Worthiness Wound and Reclaiming Your Emotional Truth

BY RAE FRANCIS

Written for the therapy-curious, psychology-aware person who wants real change, not Band-aid solutions.

"This is the first book I've ever highlighted and written in... The worthiness resonates with me more than anything throughout the book." - Verified Reader

"I feel like this entire book is like having Rae right beside me helping pick up the shattered pieces... I never really thought one could come away from a book feeling lighter and heard without even speaking." - Verified Reader

"It wasn't your typical self-help book that will tell you to do this 'one cool trick' and all your problems will be solved... I thoroughly enjoyed reading it and felt pretty empowered and proud of myself." - Verified Reader

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ABOUT THE BOOK

Finally, a book that understands why you feel "not enough" - and shows you how to heal

Are you tired of feeling like you have to earn love? Struggling with anxiety, self-doubt, or patterns that keep you stuck? You're not broken - you're dealing with what I call the "worthiness wound," and this book will help you heal it.

It's OK to Ugly Cry isn't another surface-level self-help book. It's a therapy-informed guide to understanding and healing the deep belief that you're somehow "not enough" - the worthiness wound that drives anxiety, people-pleasing, relationship struggles, and that persistent feeling that you have to prove your value.

What You'll Discover:

The Worthiness Wound framework - my signature approach to understanding why you feel like love must be earned
How childhood experiences create lasting patterns in your relationships and self-talk
Practical tools for healing anxiety, guilt, and shame without toxic positivity or quick fixes
How to set boundaries, embrace authenticity, and reclaim your voice
Attachment-informed strategies for breaking cycles that keep you stuck
Why healing isn't about perfection - it's about showing up for yourself with compassion

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Rae Francis is a therapist with over 16 years of experience helping people heal worthiness wounds and create secure, authentic relationships. Her work combines attachment theory, trauma-informed care, and cognitive behavioral therapy to address the root causes of anxiety, relationship patterns, and self-worth struggles.

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